Parenting Books by Duane Brumitt
Build the Confident Leader Your Child Is Meant to Become
You want more than a successful child—you want a confident, kind, resilient leader. These books show you how.
Author, Speaker, Teacher
About Duane Brumitt
Duane Brumitt knows what keeps parents up at night.
For almost three decades, parents have walked into his martial arts academy with the same concerns: “My child has no confidence.” “He gets bullied at school.” “She can’t focus on anything.” “He’s glued to screens all day.”
As owner of Tri-Star Martial Arts Academy in Illinois, Duane has helped thousands of families navigate these challenges. He’s watched timid five-year-olds transform into confident teenagers. He’s seen unfocused kids become honor roll students. He’s witnessed bullied children become anti-bullying advocates.
Duane is a master instructor in multiple martial arts disciplines dedicated to helping children become the best versions of themselves. These books are his gift to parents who want the same transformation for their kids.
Why Read These Books?
Why Read Duane Brumitt’s Parenting Books?
As a martial arts instructor with 27 years of experience, Duane Brumitt has helped thousands of families in Bradley, Bourbonnais, and Kankakee raise confident, focused children.
These parenting books combine proven martial arts principles with practical strategies for building self-esteem, discipline, and leadership in children.
Whether you’re concerned about bullying, screen time, or your child’s confidence, these books offer actionable solutions based on real success stories from Tri-Star Martial Arts Academy.
Raising A Black Belt
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The Complete Guide to Raising Confident, Respectful, Resilient Children"
This comprehensive parenting guide reveals how martial arts principles transform children into confident leaders.
Learn how to support your child’s journey from white belt to black belt excellence, whether they’re in martial arts or not.
Discover strategies for building resilience, respect, and self-discipline that work both on the mat and in daily life. Perfect for parents seeking practical ways to raise confident, respectful, and resilient children.
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30 Days To Higher Self-Esteem For Your Child
Transform Your Child's Confidence in Just One Month
Is your child struggling with shyness, low self-esteem, or lack of confidence? This proven 30-day program gives you the exact tools to help your child believe in themselves again.
30 Days to Higher Self-Esteem for Your Child features 32 powerful letters written by martial arts master Duane Brumitt to his students and their parents over three decades at Tri-Star Martial Arts Academy.
Each letter addresses specific challenges parents face when raising confident children—from overcoming shyness and standing up to bullies to improving focus and developing leadership skills.
Unlike generic parenting advice, these are battle-tested strategies that have helped thousands of children in Bradley, Bourbonnais, and Kankakee transform from timid and unsure to confident and capable.
Best for children ages 5-12. Each letter takes just 2-3 minutes to read and provides actionable steps you can implement immediately. Parents report noticeable changes within 2-3 weeks.
Paperback: $11.99 | Available on Amazon
Goal Realization Made Easy
Turn Your Child's Dreams Into Achievable Goals
Does your child give up easily, lack direction, or struggle to finish what they start? This practical guide teaches children and teens the proven system for setting and achieving goals that seemed impossible.
Goal Realization Made Easy provides a simple, step-by-step framework that transforms vague dreams into concrete achievements. Written by martial arts master Duane Brumitt, this book distills three decades of teaching children how to progress from white belt to black belt—a journey that requires goal-setting, perseverance, and consistent effort.
This book teaches the exact goal-setting system used by thousands of students at Tri-Star Martial Arts Academy in Bradley and New Lenox to achieve their black belts and beyond. The principles work for any goal—academic success, sports achievements, personal development, or career aspirations.
Best for ages 10-16 and adults. Each chapter provides actionable strategies, real-life examples, and exercises to practice immediately. Whether your child dreams of making the team, getting straight A’s, or mastering a new skill, this book shows them how to make it happen.
Paperback: $11.95 | Available on Amazon
A Year To Remember (Year One)
Transform Your Mindset, Transform Your Parenting
Feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or stuck in negative thinking patterns? This daily devotional helps parents develop the positive mindset needed to raise confident, resilient children.
A Year to Remember: Year One is the first in a seven-book series featuring 365 daily reflections and affirmations written by Duane Brumitt. Each day’s reading takes just 5 minutes but creates lasting transformation in how you think, act, and parent.
This isn’t just another self-help book—it’s a practical daily guide from someone who has spent over three decades helping families in Bradley, New Lenox, and surrounding communities develop the mental discipline and positive mindset that martial arts training cultivates.
The transformation happens gradually: Within weeks, you’ll notice more positive thinking. Within months, your actions will reflect your new mindset. By year’s end, others will see the change and ask what you’re doing differently.
Best for parents and adults seeking personal growth. Each reflection includes actionable insights you can apply immediately to your parenting, relationships, and daily life.
Paperback: $11.99 | Available on Amazon
A Year To Remember (Year Two)
Deepen Your Growth, Strengthen Your Family
Ready to take your personal growth to the next level? This second volume in the seven-book series builds on Year One’s foundation with 365 new daily reflections designed to deepen your positive mindset and strengthen your impact as a parent.
A Year to Remember: Year Two continues your transformation journey with fresh insights, affirmations, and practical wisdom from Duane Brumitt’s over three decades of helping families develop mental discipline and resilience. Each 5-minute daily reading reinforces positive thinking patterns while introducing new perspectives on parenting, leadership, and personal growth.
Year Two takes you deeper. While Year One establishes the foundation of positive thinking, Year Two challenges you to apply these principles in more complex parenting situations—handling conflict, teaching resilience, and leading by example even on difficult days.
The compound effect is powerful: Parents who complete both Year One and Year Two report profound shifts not just in their own mindset, but in their children’s behavior, family communication, and overall household atmosphere.
Best for parents who completed Year One or anyone committed to daily personal development. Each reflection connects directly to real-life parenting challenges faced by families in Bradley, New Lenox, and beyond.
Paperback: $11.99 | Available on Amazon
Frequently Asked Questions
Most frequent questions and answers about Duane Brumitt's Parenting Books
If you’re new to Duane Brumitt’s work, start with “Raising a Black Belt” – it’s the comprehensive guide that covers the foundational principles of building confidence, respect, and resilience in children. This book is perfect whether your child is in martial arts or not, as it applies these proven principles to everyday parenting.
If your child is struggling with specific confidence issues right now, “30 Days to Higher Self-Esteem for Your Child”offers immediate, actionable strategies you can implement today.
These books are most beneficial for parents of children ages 3-16, though the principles apply across all ages:
“30 Days to Higher Self-Esteem” works best for ages 5-12
“Raising a Black Belt” covers the entire journey from early childhood through the teen years
“A Year to Remember” series is perfect for parents seeking daily inspiration and personal growth alongside their parenting journey
Many parents report seeing positive changes within the first 2-3 weeks of implementing the strategies. As one Bradley parent shared: “He’s been in it a month now & I’ve noticed a huge change in his behavior & demeanor.”
The “30 Days to Higher Self-Esteem” book is specifically designed to show measurable progress within one month. However, building lasting confidence and leadership is a journey – these books provide the roadmap for long-term transformation.
Yes! Focus and discipline are core themes throughout Duane’s books. Parents of children with ADHD have reported significant improvements in:
Attention span during homework and activities
Following multi-step directions
Self-control and emotional regulation
Organizational skills
As one parent from Bradley shared: “My 6 year old is doing a lot better with his focus and very attentive.”
The structured, step-by-step approach in these books is particularly effective for children who need clear expectations and consistent routines.
Currently, “Raising a Black Belt” is available as a Kindle pre-order for $0.99 (launching November 18, 2025). The other titles are available in paperback format on Amazon:
“30 Days to Higher Self-Esteem for Your Child” – $11.99 paperback
“Goal Realization Made Easy” – $11.95 paperback
“A Year to Remember” (both Year One and Year Two) – $11.99 each paperback
Duane’s unique perspective comes from over three decades of hands-on experience transforming thousands of children at Tri-Star Martial Arts Academy in Bradley and New Lenox, Illinois. Unlike theoretical parenting books, these strategies are:
Proven in real-world application with children ages 3-16
Based on measurable results – watching timid 5-year-olds become confident teenagers
Rooted in martial arts principles of respect, discipline, and perseverance
Focused on character development over just behavior management
Practical and actionable – not just theory
Parents trust these books because they’ve seen the transformation in their own children and their friends’ children at Tri-Star.
Yes! While earlier intervention is ideal, teenagers can absolutely benefit from these principles. “Raising a Black Belt”includes guidance for teens, and “Goal Realization Made Easy” is particularly powerful for teenagers learning to set and achieve their own goals.
The key is adapting the approach to your teen’s developmental stage while maintaining the core principles of respect, confidence, and leadership.
Every child is unique, and transformation takes time. However, thousands of parents have seen positive changes using these principles. If you’re not seeing results:
Give it time – Most parents see changes within 2-4 weeks
Be consistent – Daily implementation is key
Start small – Focus on one strategy at a time
Adjust to your child – Adapt the principles to your child’s personality
Reach out – Contact Tri-Star Martial Arts Academy for guidance
Remember, Duane Brumitt has spent over three decades refining these strategies with thousands of children – they work when applied consistently.
Absolutely not! While Duane Brumitt’s 27 years of martial arts teaching experience informs these books, the principles work for any child in any activity. The strategies focus on universal parenting goals: building confidence, developing discipline, teaching respect, and raising resilient leaders.
Parents have successfully applied these principles whether their children are in sports, arts, academics, or simply navigating everyday challenges at school and home.
Give yourself some time, and you will be astounded at how much you improve! You’ll find that our very experienced instructors are trained to keep their teaching simple. So even the most uncoordinated person will develop ‘ninja-like’ skills! Come see for yourself!
“Raising a Black Belt” directly addresses bullying through building inner confidence and teaching children how to stand up for themselves respectfully. The book covers:
How to recognize bullying situations early
Building the confidence to speak up
Teaching respect without being a target
Developing the leadership skills that prevent bullying
Combined with “30 Days to Higher Self-Esteem for Your Child,” you’ll have a complete toolkit for helping your child overcome bullying challenges.
Each book stands alone and addresses specific needs:
Start with one book that addresses your most pressing concern
“Raising a Black Belt” is the comprehensive foundation
“30 Days to Higher Self-Esteem” is the quick-start action plan
“Goal Realization Made Easy” helps older kids and teens set and achieve their own goals
“A Year to Remember” series supports your personal growth as a parent
Many parents start with one book and gradually add others as they see results.
While individual books are currently sold separately on Amazon, you can purchase all titles together for a complete parenting library
“30 Days to Higher Self-Esteem for Your Child” specifically addresses shyness and social confidence. The book provides daily exercises that help children:
Break through their shells and engage with peers
Build self-confidence in social situations
Develop communication skills
Make meaningful friendships
As one parent shared: “I have even watched some of his shy friends break through their shells as they started brimming with self confidence!”
While not exclusively about screen time, the books address the root causes that make screens so appealing to kids:
Building confidence so children seek real-world challenges
Developing discipline and self-control
Creating engaging alternatives through goal-setting
Teaching delayed gratification
Building social skills that make real friendships more rewarding than online interactions
Parents report that as their children’s confidence grows, their dependence on screens naturally decreases.
Absolutely! These principles work for all family structures – single parents, two-parent households, blended families, and grandparents raising grandchildren. The strategies focus on the parent-child relationship and building your child’s internal character, which doesn’t depend on family structure.
Many single parents at Tri-Star Martial Arts Academy have successfully used these principles to raise confident, respectful children.
Join the Tri-Star Martial Arts Academy community! Even if you’re not local to Bradley or New Lenox, Illinois, you can:
Follow Tri-Star on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter for daily inspiration
Read parent testimonials and success stories on the website
Connect with Duane Brumitt through his speaking engagements
Join the book launch team for “Raising a Black Belt” to connect with other parents implementing these principles
No prerequisites needed! These books are written for everyday parents, not child psychology experts. Duane writes in a conversational, accessible style that makes complex character development principles easy to understand and implement.
Start with whichever book addresses your most immediate concern, and build from there.