MARTIAL ARTS FOR BOTH CHILDREN AND ADULTS!

Stop Seeking Approval From Others and Enjoy Greater Self-Esteem

Seeking Approval 300x175, Tri-Star Martial Arts Academy Bradley & New LenoxNo one is sure how the need for approval developed. Some social scientists believe that it evolved from a survival advantage that group acceptance provided. It was challenging to survive 10,000 years ago, and maybe impossible to survive alone. Those that crave acceptance had a better chance of remaining with the group and survival.
Those that didn’t care about upsetting others found themselves kicked to the prehistoric curb and an early demise.
In this day and age, though, approval-seeking behavior is self-sabotaging. Trying to impress others is exhausting and minimizes your own importance and individuality.
Free yourself from the need to receive approval from others:
1. Give your opinion freely. One symptom of approval-seeking tendencies is the hesitance to share your opinion. You might say something that the other person doesn’t approve of. And since it was your opinion, they might not approve of you either.

  • Give your opinion, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Start with smaller things. Do you think it will rain? Do you prefer basketball or football? Which movie would you like to see?

2. Avoid judging others. If you’re overly critical of others, it’s only natural that you assume others are the same towards you. By avoiding this type of behavior in yourself, you’ll drop the assumption that everyone else is judging you. Allow others to be as they are. It makes life more interesting. Sit back and enjoy the differences.

  • Notice your thoughts. Are you constantly judging others in a variety of situations? You’ll fear the judgements of others if you continue to be judgmental.

3. Realize that disapproval can be used as a weapon. Many people use disapproval as a means of getting what they want. They may disapprove of your opinion, clothing, hairstyle, or anything else to enjoy the fruits of your submission.

  • Call people on their disapproval of you. Ask them to explain themselves. Remember that most negative people are looking for a victim, not a fight. When you stick up for yourself, many of the bullies disappear.
  • Knowing this can free you from seeking the approval of others. In many cases, they’re just in the game for themselves.

4. Be aware of what happens when someone disapproves of you. Nothing happens. We seem to be born with an intense desire to fit in. But what actually happens when someone disapproves of you? The sky doesn’t fall on top of you. You might suffer from a little anxiety or embarrassment, but it passes.
5. Do some things for yourself. If you’re constantly seeking approval, you’re not taking very good care of yourself. Show yourself that you’re important by focusing some of your time and energy on yourself. It might be a little bit uncomfortable at first. You might even feel selfish.
6. Fill your life with things that are important. If you had to run across the street naked to save your child’s life, you wouldn’t be worried about anyone’s opinion. That’s because your child’s life is more important than your ego. But you don’t need a disaster to experience this.

  • Volunteer with an organization that’s doing important work. Write a book that you believe will change lives for the better. Find ways to spend your time on things you consider to be important.
  • You’ll find that you enjoy more freedom in the other, less important, parts of your life.

Being overly concerned about the opinions of others is damaging to your self-esteem. Each time you seek approval, you’re diminishing your own importance. You’re causing yourself pain. Your opinion matters. Allow your individuality to be seen and experienced by others.

SHARE THIS POST

About our programs

Preschool Martial Arts
in Bradley & New Lenox

Discover why parents love our Preschool Martial Arts program in Bradley & New Lenox. It's the perfect blend of gross motor, personal development and character enrichment. Find out why 100's of families, just like yours, trust Bradley & New Lenox

- SELECT A CLASS OPTION BELOW -

Kids Martial Arts
in Bradley & New Lenox

Parents love our Kids Martial Arts program in Bradley & New Lenox, because it's the perfect blend of self defense, personal development and character enrichment. Find out why so many families, just like yours, love and trust Bradley & New Lenox

- SELECT A CLASS OPTION BELOW -

Teen Martial Arts
in Bradley & New Lenox

Fitness and Self Defense, two major goals parents have when looking for Teen Martial Arts in Bradley & New Lenox. It's time to give your teenager a work out and get the results that they need.

- SELECT A CLASS OPTION BELOW -

Adult Martial Arts
in Bradley & New Lenox

Fitness and Self Defense, two major goals for anyone looking for Adult Martial Arts in Bradley & New Lenox. It's time to change up your work out and get the results you've been looking for.

- SELECT A CLASS OPTION BELOW -

Birthday Parties
in Bradley & New Lenox

When we say we have the best birthday parties in Bradley & New Lenox, we mean it. Give your child the perfect party, while you enjoy a stress free day. Your child will thank you later, we guarantee it!

- SELECT A CLASS OPTION BELOW -

Summer Camp
in Bradley

Discover why Parents in Bradley love our Kids Martial Arts Summer Camps. Give your child an experience they won't forget. Martial arts changes lives. .

- DISCOVER -

TEST COPY

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.

 

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.


Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.

Fill out the form below to

Get Your Spot Now!

HOME

ABOUT US

PROGRAMS

Skip to content