If you have confidence, think independently, and make your own choices in life, it wouldn’t be all that surprising to discover you prefer to figure out things for yourself. Because you’re so self-assured, you might not like to ask for help, even if it’s necessary.
Whether we like it or not, all of us could benefit from time to time by accepting a hand from another human being. Not only that, but when you ask for assistance, other people also stand to benefit in ways you might not have considered.
Contemplate these reasons why you may want to ask someone to help you, even if you find it challenging:
1. You accomplish the goal you’re after. If you need to get to that job interview and your car is still in the shop, go ahead and ask your friend to drive you. If you have a goal you want to achieve and you can accomplish it with a bit of help, then ask for and accept assistance.
2. You show that you’re human. If you’re full of confidence and seem to always do everything right, people can easily put you on a pedestal. However, when you request aid from others, they realize that even someone like you falters once in a while as you’re trying to carve a path through life. This can be really inspirational.
3. You set an effective example. This applies to co-workers, friends, and family members. If you just go straight to the point and request a hand as soon as you recognize you’re going to need it, you help to de-stigmatize the whole idea of getting help.
- When your friends and family face a challenge, they’ll think, “Jeff didn’t hesitate to seek out some extra help right away whenever he needed it and that’s so smart. I’m going to do it, too.” Then, you get the opportunity to be helpful to them, too!
4. You give others a chance to help you. Most people feel very good about themselves when they are able to extend assistance to others. You’re allowing others to feel those rewarding emotions whenever you request a hand from them.
5. The level of stress you’re experiencing will drop. It can be very stressful when something goes wrong. Anxieties and worries develop and persist. The longer you worry about the situation, the worse you feel. Getting help means you can avoid all that distress.
6. You develop a true appreciation for others. You’ll love seeing concrete proof that others want to see you be successful in life.
7. You enhance your relationships. When you request aid from a friend or relative, that person feels emotionally closer to you. After all, if you feel comfortable enough to reach out for help, that’s quite a compliment to the other person. Plus, when the person comes to your aid, you’ll recognize how much that person really cares about you.
8. Reciprocation feels great. Doing something as thanks to the friend who helped you will bring pleasure to both of you.
9. You show that you’re an efficient “manager” of your own life. You can either spend time, emotional energy, and hours of lost sleep trying to figure an issue out on your own or you can ask for help and get it quickly taken care of. Which method is more efficient?
You now see some of the many good reasons why you may want to go ahead and ask for help. Giving and receiving assistance can enrich your life. You’ll strengthen your relationships and be a better person for it!
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